When last did you enjoy life? Or do you feel as if it doesn’t matter what you do; you just can’t get your breakthrough? It seems as if everything is against you. Nothing ever works out the way it should. You can never get yourself to fully trust other people. It feels as if “everybody is out to get you”. There is just so much to do and there are not enough hours in the day….and you have to do everything yourself, because if you want something to be done…..yes, you guessed it….you have to do it yourself.
Does that sound like you in any way? Are you currently feeling somewhat….overwhelmed? What can you do to enjoy life again?
What Is Holding You Back and What Can You Do To Enjoy Life Again?
The first and the best place to start is often the most obvious, but also the one you don’t really want to hear; with yourself. We need to start by taking a serious look at our thinking habits and our own behavior.
That doesn’t mean you have to go on a guilt trip or that you are bad person. You might have a very valid reason for whatever is going on in your life. Maybe it originated from your childhood when you got exposed to lots of negativity and negative talking. Maybe you always got mocked or ridiculed as a child.
It might be that you’ve had a bad experience in business or maybe you’ve even lost your business. Was it because of a bad partnership?
It can be any one of many reasons and they can all be valid reasons. But there is no reason why you should remain stuck under that yoke. None of those reasons should have the power to keep you from living a happy, fulfilled and successful life. You can still enjoy life. But there is only one person who can do something about that; and that is you.
If it is a problem you are carrying with you since childhood, remember, you are no longer a child. You can make your own decisions as to whom and what you believe. You can decide what you are going to believe about yourself and what you are capable of.
Whatever happened, it’s done. It’s over. Take responsibility. Maybe you made a bad choice in choosing a business partner. Or maybe you made some bad decisions that cost you your business. Use that experience now to learn from. Apply that knowledge in the future and move on.
If You Really Want To Enjoy Life, Time for Change Is Now.
If you grew up with negativity or even some form of abuse, no doubt, it will have an effect on you. But you don’t have to accept that burden and live with it for the rest of your life. There are many testimonies of people who were abused, traumatized or had a difficult childhood. Read some of these testimonies and see what they did to overcome their obstacles. Learn more about what they are doing currently and how they enjoy life today.
It all starts with a decision. You have to make a quality decision that you are not happy and that you want to change your life. Let’s take a look at some of the things you can do to enjoy life more:
- Change your thinking.
- Change your behavior.
- Change your habits.
- Stop comparing.
If You Want To Enjoy Life, You Need To Change Your Thinking.
Our attitude towards life can always be traced back to our thought life. What I like to call our ‘belief system’ (everything that you believe – whether it is true or not) is based on your thoughts. This ‘belief system’ is formed during childhood.
As a child you believed everything you were told, and whether it was negative or positive, you responded accordingly.
Do you constantly battle with negative thinking? If you always doubt yourself or you always expect the worst to happen, this might be due to a negative belief system that was formed during childhood.
The good news is; today, as an adult, you have enough information available to you to make your own decisions. You can decide for yourself what you are going to believe?
“I’ll never make it in business”, you think to yourself. You think you don’t have what it takes. Why not? If you hate doing business, well….that’s a valid reason and you’re probably right. But, do you dream about running your own business? Do you often find yourself admiring successful business people?
Then maybe it’s time to take a serious look at your ‘belief system’? It would be highly unlikely for you to be so passionate about business if you don’t have what it takes.
Are you constantly feeling overwhelmed? Stop for a moment. What is the worst that can happen? Whatever you find so overwhelming, is it going to continue forever? Most likely it is not. Realize that there will come an end to it. Start looking forward to a positive outcome.
Have you experienced failure? Think about the lessons learned and use it to grow. No success has ever been achieved without failure along the way.
To Enjoy Life, You Need To Change Your Behavior.
Your behavior is closely linked to your thinking because your thinking determines your behavior. It is about how you respond. Someone who feels insecure will easily feel threatened. And when threatened, people tend to respond aggressively.
Think about road rage as an example. When someone else drives like a lunatic, it is easy to lose your ‘cool’. I battled with this one for a long time (I still often have to work hard at it). It feels like such a person is putting the safety of my family at risk and I cannot stand the thought of it.
How I got this under control, is before I go on the road with my family now, I pray for God’s divine protection over me and my family according to Psalm 91. I realize when I go out there; I will get exposed to all kinds of people, circumstances and conditions. But I decide beforehand that I am not going to allow it to become part of my personal world. It will not become part of my life and it will not steal my joy. I just remain focused on getting from point A to point B, and I feel safe under God’s protection (God does a much better job of it than what I ever can).
When something happens (as it still does), I just smile and think by myself how awesome it is to enjoy God’s protection. I then start praising Him for it, because we have experienced His protection once again.
We have had our close calls. But no harm has come to any of us. Recently, my youngest daughter has been robbed, but physically, she wasn’t touched. Yes, she was traumatized, but she still refuses to live in fear.
Change Your Habits and Enjoy Life.
We all have habits. Yes, you can have both bad habits and you can have good habits. Obviously you need to change your bad habits for good ones.
Good habits can serve you well. Create routines for your day. Follow these routines to get certain tasks done. In this way you will reduce your stress levels drastically. By following different routines for different tasks, you don’t have to figure out what to do next all the time.
Create a habit of moving around. Follow a regular exercise routine and learn about healthy eating habits. Your body will thank you for it and you’ll feel much better too.
Last but not least, stop comparing. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Don’t always compare what you have to what other people have. Don’t measure yourself and your ability to do things, against other people and their abilities.
It is good to admire someone else for what they do and for who they are. You may even use such a person as a role model. Study what they do and learn from it. But do not become a carbon copy of that person.
Do things that make you happy. Acquire things that will bring you satisfaction, enjoyment and pleasure. We often have stuff in the house that we refer to as being a “white elephant”, as having no real purpose. Why did you buy it in the first place? Was it because everybody else was buying one? Or maybe it just made you look good at the time.
Buying something or doing something to please other people will only bring short term satisfaction. While people make comments and pay attention, it makes us feel good. But the moment the excitement is over, everything is gone.
It’s better to do something you really want to do, or to buy something you really want. When you do, you are more likely to continue doing it and using it over the long term.
You don’t need other people’s approval to enjoy life. What brings joy to you doesn’t have to bring joy to someone else. If something is beautiful to someone else, it doesn’t have to beautiful to you. That is what makes each of us unique.
The moment you discover this truth, you will become a happier person. As soon as you become happy, you will start drawing people towards you, because it is nice to be around a happy person.
Now it’s Up To You.
If you want to enjoy life, it’s completely up to you. It’s a decision you have to make.
Have you faced any challenges in life? How did you overcome your obstacles? Did your life change in a positive way? Do you enjoy life today?
What would you say to encourage someone else to overcome their obstacles and challenges they are facing? What advice would you give to someone on how to enjoy life?