Life is a journey, and your life is going to be what you make of it. It can be boring, just getting along from one day to the next, or it can be stressful, always putting out fires.
But it can also be a joyful journey, one where you can be excited about every new day. It is all about what you make of it.
But how do we get rid of anger and stress?
How Can We Enjoy Life in a World of Violence?
We are all bombarded with information from the physical world around us, and if you don’t take control of yourself and your emotions, this can become quite overwhelming. The sad part is that the majority of information that comes our way on a daily basis is intimidating, overwhelming and downright depressing news.
How often do you hear people say “I hate reading the newspaper, all you see is bad news. Why can’t we see some good news for a change”? Yet, the irony is that very few people are actually interested in “good news”.
I recently watched a television program where some top journalists and news photographers got interviewed. Some of these journalists discussed how they would go into Africa to cover the top news events, but as they would enter countries where there is peace and where people are generally easy going, they would be quick to leave those areas, looking for countries where violence is at the order of the day. They would be looking for countries at war and where there is bloodshed on a daily basis. In peaceful areas, there is just no sensation and nobody would read about it.
Everybody is talking about the bad state of world affairs and about violence being at the order of the day. “When you open the news paper, all you see is violence” you say. Yes that’s true. That is all we read about, but it is because it sells news papers. It is about creating sensation, because that is what people want…..sensation.
Yet, there is good news out there too. We just don’t really hear about it. So where do you live?
Create Your World.
Are you living in fear because of all the bad news? Then let me ask you this question. When is the last time when you had to scan your garden before dashing for the front gate without getting shot at? How many millions of people (you, your friends and family included) are happily and safely commuting on a daily basis, whether by air travel or by car, and arriving at their destinations without giving a second thought about being involved in an accident.
Are you taking pressure at work or in your business because you have to perform?
We all live in two “worlds”. We all live in our own “inner world”, and we live in the physical world.
The physical world is obviously the world around you. This is where everything physically takes place.
Living in your own “inner world”, is referring to how you experience life. It is your way of thinking and the way you respond to what happens in the world around you.
I was thinking about this as I recently watched a rugby match. I love following the Super Rugby series. This particular game was a typical derby between South African teams and it caught my attention.
It was the game between the Stormers and the Cheetahs. The Stormers are in a much better position on the overall log for the series. The Cheetahs on the other hand, had a bad season thus far. Thus, the Stormers had much to lose, while the Cheetahs had nothing to lose going into this game.
The Cheetahs clearly went in and played their hearts out, just enjoying the game. What was the result for doing that? They came out victoriously.
I have often found the same principle in my own life. When I put pressure on myself or even allow external circumstances to add pressure, it’s almost as if I’m working against myself. Everything that can go wrong will go wrong.
Yet, when I relax and just get down to business and I do what I know needs to be done, I find ways to make it enjoyable. Not only do I get it done better, but I normally end up completing the task faster too.
You Choose the World You Are Going To Live In
Stress is no stranger in the world that we are living in today. Stress often leads to anger as well. It gets disturbing when we start looking at various statistics of stress and anger. How would you like to see over 2 million reasons why Americans need anger management? Is that exciting enough for you?
Believe it or not, there is some good news too. You can choose not to fall victim to stress and anger. Nobody said it’s going to be easy. But if you can determine the source of your stress and anger, the next step will be to make a quality decision, and you can overcome these conditions.
Even though anger is a huge problem in society today, we (often unknowingly) keep on promoting it. Every sports star must be “aggressive” in his approach when participating. Successful business people are known for being “aggressive” in their business, and they often develop quite intimidating personalities too. It is often the more aggressive people who take the lead in many situations by being intimidating. Many people try to make their stamp of authority today by being aggressive. It is as if we think that the more aggressive we are, the stronger we are. Yet, nothing can be further from the truth.
Real strong and firm leaders are often the calmer and even-tempered type of person. These are people who just demand respect seemingly without even trying.
With all this competition amongst people, and the need for being the strongest, it is of little wonder that many people don’t realize the origin of stress and anger.
Anger is based in fear. For many people it might be hard to come to grips with this idea, but anger is normally in response to being threatened. Whenever a person feels threatened to be harmed, either physically, emotionally, financially or in any other way, it is a spontaneous reaction to respond with anger. It is an act of survival.
The highly competitive and fast-paced lifestyle which is at the order of the day today is a contributing factor to this problem. Just think about this for a moment. How many times do you see people (it might even be you) who totally get beyond themselves when someone cuts in front of him on the freeway? Yes, it’s rude. But is it worth having a heart attack over? That person doesn’t even know that you are walking around with a headache for the rest of the day, while he just carries on with life like normal. We are so fast to get angry, which means that we actually feel threatened by the smallest of incidents.
Take control of your own life by taking control of your own thoughts. Just one piece of advice, do not decide “not to get angry” for the day. For some reason, when you decide not to get angry, as soon as you get out of bed in the morning, you hit your toe against the coffee table….and that’s normally the end of it…lol.
Learn to love yourself for whom and what you are. Decide to be calm and relaxed no matter what. Get settled and confident in your own identity. Realize that you are in control. When you develop confidence in your own identity, you would not feel threatened as quickly, and thus you would have much more control over your temper and your stress levels.
Take stock of your life. Prepare yourself for change. Find your passion. What makes you excited about life?
Enjoy the Journey
Believe me, as you start making peace with yourself, and you calm down and become more even-tempered, you start drawing more people closer to you as well. It is just way more fun to be around a calm and relaxed person, than to be with an aggressive intimidating person.
So what is your world like where you live in? What do you do to make the world a better place? How do you fight stress and anger? They are very real enemies, and I would love to hear from you.