You don’t need permission to be successful. That might seem like a logical statement, but are you on your way to achieving your goals? Are you working towards living your dream? Or are you intimidated by people’s comments and opinions?
Do you always find yourself having to explain yourself to everybody else? It doesn’t matter what you do or what you have done, it always feels as if you need to give some form explanation to everybody to justify why you did it or why you are currently doing something.
And often you are not even halfway through your explanation and it feels as if you’re boring the other person half to death. That’s normally when you start asking yourself….. “They just don’t get it, do they? Or am I making something huge out of nothing?”
The fact is that it might not be either one of the two. It’s not that they don’t get it. Maybe they don’t really understand what you are trying to say or do, or they simply don’t care as they don’t consider it to be all that important.
Are you making something huge out of nothing? I don’t know….maybe….maybe not. What is important though is that you need to learn that it’s not necessary to always explain yourself to other people. You don’t have to explain everything you do based on what you think other people think (or might think).
You Don’t Need Anybody’s Permission to Be Successful.
It might be that subconsciously you are trying to justify what you are doing in order to get approval or recognition from someone else. This often leads to disappointment as many people are so pre-occupied with their own ideas, thoughts and whatever is going on their lives, that they hardly sense the urgency or the excitement that you are trying to share with them.
If you are hoping for someone to agree with you or to get so excited about what you have just told them that they start encouraging you, you might be in for a long wait.
It might be that subconsciously you are waiting for someone else’s approval before you start taking serious action. You start doing something small and soon you’ll start explaining yourself to other people. You wait for a response and if nothing major happens, it becomes more and more difficult for you to take action or even continue with what you have started. It is as if you become demotivated and all your actions become hesitant and half-hearted. You start doubting yourself until you stop doing it altogether and you eventually think it has just been another failure.
How you wish you could also be like those extroverted, “go-getter” type of personalities. If you could only be like one of those people who just go out there and make things happen. They just do things, irrespective of what anybody else think or say and they always seem to be successful.
What you don’t realize, is that you have just provided the answer to your own problem. The point that you are missing is the fact that it has nothing to do with being introverted or extroverted. It’s not even about what other people are thinking.
Results Are Noticed.
The majority of people are not focused on what you are telling them or even what you might be doing. They may be interested in what you have to say and even find it interesting. They may really be excited – for you, but it doesn’t…..‘hit home’…..so to speak. They are pre-occupied with one hundred and ten other things that affect them personally. Maybe they are excited for themselves and focused on a personal goal they are working on. Others can hardly wait for you to finish your sentence so that they can tell you something else that is actually important to them.
The result….your excitement just gets lost in all the noise of the day. It’s not that people aren’t really interested in you or what you are doing; it’s just that what you tell them doesn’t have an immediate, major physical impact on their lives.
Yet, while people are not always focused on what everybody tells them every day, people do take note of what they see, feel and experience. Once you start producing results, or you visibly start becoming successful, people will notice and be quick to start asking questions and show interest in what you do. By then you wouldn’t need anybody’s permission or approval, as you will be well on your way to success.
The first part of your journey might well be one of the loneliest and challenging parts of your journey. If you wait for approval from other people or any positive comments, you are putting yourself at risk of being tempted to quit. But stick it out, it will be well worth it, I promise.
Don’t Be So Concerned With What You Think Other People Think
The solution to your problem is this. Stop being so concerned about other people’s opinions. Stop being so concerned about what people are going to say and think about you or about what you are doing. To be blunt, the majority of them (especially if they are strangers) don’t care anyway. Stop waiting for someone to ‘give you permission’ in the form of agreeing with you or by getting overly excited by your idea. It most likely will never happen, and you don’t need permission or approval from anybody to be successful anyway.
Great thinkers discuss ideas; medium thinkers discuss events; the rest discuss other people – Anonymous
If you seriously want to do something;
- Think it through carefully.
- Weigh up the pros and cons.
- Do not act impulsively.
- Once you have all the facts, just do it.
In the beginning, this might be your biggest challenge. It will by no means be easy and you will have to build up courage to do it. But do it anyway. It is a matter of developing your self-confidence and stepping out of your confort-zone.
Conquer Your Fear
The only way of getting over your fear, is by doing it. If it doesn’t work out for you the first time or even if it is a total failure, it is okay. Get up and try it in a different way. No success has ever been achieved without any failures along the way. Failure is an opportunity to learn. Failure is a temporary condition, until you decide to make it permanent. The only way to guarantee failure is by doing nothing.
The secret is not to never fail, but to get up every time after you have failed – Chinese Proverb
Remember those ‘extroverts’ I referred too earlier? Those people who just seem to start doing whatever they feel like doing – irrespective of what anybody else think or say?
Do you really think they never fail at anything? Fact is; they do. But they don’t get intimidated by it and they don’t make a big fuss about it. They pick up the pieces and start again. They consider it to be part of the process.
Because they don’t make a big fuss about their failures, hardly anybody notice them. And those who do notice will maybe talk about it for a day or two, and then carry on with their own lives anyway.
To become successful is not about being an introvert or an extrovert. The difference between successful people and unsuccessful people is the way they think. It is all about your thinking.
You aren’t what you think you are; you are what you think – Anonymous
So stop being so concerned about what other people are thinking of you and focus on your own thinking. Stop being doubtful about what it is you want to do. Stop being concerned about what someone else is going to say when you start doing what you are passionate about. Rather start thinking about the impact you can have on making the world a better place.
You have been placed on this earth with a purpose. That is what you have been born for. You don’t need anybody’s approval to be successful, but multitudes might benefit from it if you strive to fulfill your God-given potential. You don’t need someone’s permission to do what you have been created for. So be of good courage, be bold, and just do it.
It is important to know that you are capable of so much more than you think you can ever be – Anonymous